They say that parents yell at us for making mistakes which is not as helpful as telling us to learn from our mistakes. They also say that if being successful feels so good why are we afraid to make a mistake. I say that we are afraid to make mistakes because the consequences to some mistakes could be great. Also, we want to give life our best effort to be successful which makes us afraid to make a mistake. Overall, I believe that we shouldn't be afraid to make mistakes in some areas in our lives, but we should also be alert to not make a mistake in other areas of our lives.
I do believe now that we are older, we learn our consequences. Yes, we do push ourselves to not make mistakes and we try to hard. But sometimes we are not alert and make the mistake anyway.
We are not perfect obviosuly, We are afraid to make mistakes because we don't know wat ramifications are yet to come, we don't want to be yelled at by our parents or by our boss. We are afraid of making mistakes because there are parents who instead of trying to talk they yell or they lay a hand on their kids they think that's the solution to everything but in reality it is not the way to solutions that's why people are afraid to make mistakes because they don't know what it is yet to come.
i just wanted to say i like the word "ramifications" and i know this is a b.s. comment, more like unnecessary input....
I think we're taught at an early age to dread making mistakes because of the consequences. Like my classmate said, parents tend to yell and give negative reinforcement to their child because that is most likely how the parents were raised as well. Sure, we may learn from the mistake after but all we learn is to not do the same thing over again or to just not attempt it in the first place.
I agree with you Jazmin, parents can make this a dreadful situation because they were taught by their parents to scream. Our parents were taught and they passed it onto us,so that we can pass it to our children. Hopefully this can be broken and we can learn from this. This is one of my favorite quotes, “They fuck you up, your mum and dad. They may not mean to, but they do. They fill you with the faults they had, And add some extra, just for you." - Philip Larkin
As children we are brought up to believe that making mistakes is the equivalent of making yourself out to be a failure. Mistakes often bring punishment and ridicule, so we learn to fear the outcomes that mistakes carry. We are ashamed by others for not being the spitting image of success and perfection. Although we may learn from our mistakes we are afraid of making them. Most say that we learn to fear committing these mistakes because of our upbringings. But the issue is rooted deep within ourselves and the image we hope to project. In any situation, when you are trying something new, you risk the reputation of who you are as a person. For example, you might have the reputation of the smartest student in class, but by choosing to try something new you risk that image being altered if you make a mistake. You are no longer as pristine as you once thought and now you have to settle for a lesser image of yourself.
Our ego causes us to fear having to make mistakes. In our head we create personas of who we think we are. When we make mistakes we are faced with a reality check of our flaws, and how sometimes even our best efforts aren't good enough. Being honest about our failures and our limitations can be humiliating, but being honest about who we really are teaches us about taking responsibility on our illusions on our identity. We often forget that we are only human, and that by making mistakes we can only get better. We are afraid of making mistakes because we fear risking our identity we have in our heads and changing that to a more accurate depiction of who we really are. Sometimes who we really are isn't really our best selves. If we don't allow ourselves to make mistakes and grow as people, then we are our biggest enemy. There is an African proverb that goes as follows:"If there is no enemy within, the enemy outside can do us no harm". We often "blame" the society we live in for our fear on making mistakes. But we are to blame for giving them the power to affect us in the first place, and it's okay to admit that.
First of all, love the proverb. I do have one question and as this is a public forum and you may not come back to this, I don't expect you to answer. I do hope others could enlighten me however. What then of the people who understand their flaws and their imperfections as human? Why do they fear making mistakes as people who have come to acknowledge that they will eventually make mistakes? I understand that that may seem confusing. After all if you can see and understand something before it happens why would it possibly affect you negatively when it finally happens? I see your idea has several nods to the human race as a whole is driven by ego in that its reasons for fearing mistakes is personal yet associated with society. However as someone who believes it is the upbringing of a person that develops a sense of fear for the unknown, I cannot fathom this idea of yours to be the whole truth. Really there is no reason to argue for one thing being the sole reason we as a sentient life form fear our flaws. It is however a mistake to place blame on those that are still developing the human race. We don't give society power to inflict us with injury. We are not to blame for our upbringing morphing us to believe that society is always right morally. Instead I'd like to say that playing the blame game in this instance is not a sufficient reason to ignore the aspects of humanity that make us inadequate. Instead it is how we understand the reasons for our failings and choose to acknowledge them and tear them down to rebuild them anew, that will shape our future. For it is only in blame that we do not succeed in mastering ourselves, but it is in acceptance that we prove to ourselves that we have, can, and will be better.
I agree with some of the stuff Jack said in class, that kids are taught that mistakes are bad and not taught that they can be fixed or you can learn from them. I think that in addition that people don't want to be embarrassed, and a mistake is always associated with embarrassment and shame. In some cases I feel like people don't want to make a mistake because they are focused on trying to please other people. I also believe that if we got rid of those feelings of embarrassment and shame, that we would be open to making more mistakes so that we can take what we learn from them and become a wiser person.
I agree with both Jack's and Stephanie's opinions. We would tend to feel embarrassed and we don't want others to judge us for the mistakes we make. Even though it would be considered a "tiny" mistake we don't want others to talk about it or even mention. We are easily influenced by others and are often afraid of what others would say about us. But if we were to ignore others and learn from our mistakes, it would lead us to a better and wiser person.
we may learn from mistakes, and we may be punished for our mistakes. maybe it goes back to how our parents treated us when we made mistakes in childhood. most of us do not like being punished, so we try not to make mistakes. and of course mistakes can be so costly – huge mistakes are cause for great suffering and monumental damage. small mistakes make better learning experiences. so i guess you can say we condition ourselves to never make mistakes even though in human nature nothing is perfect and mistakes will be made eventually, they're unavoidable.
Yes, we do learn by our parents or guardians, and we choose sometimes to not listen to them. But if we listened sometimes but now we wouldn't be afraid to make that mistake.
As children we do not fully understand words like consequences or punishment and instead it is deemed acceptable that the actions of a parent take precedence over a debate with the child. After all to debate a child is considered a useless measure or sometimes even thought of as beneath a superior adult intellect. This however is not the case when a child, say under the age of 10, is molded by severe punishment instead of sitting down and discussing the misconduct they previously made, and it is further shown by said punished child growing up and choosing to fight rather than discuss. This point is made clear when they choose to lash out instead of speak out. A child being overtly punished in a way they do not full understand why or what it is they are being punished for has a mental block in they're ability to seek information expecting to receive acknowledgment, by having them fear the unknown consequences to their questions. This can be seen in many classrooms today. In correlation to the severity at which parents and teachers react to a child's misdeeds, teens, and quite often millennials, do not take advantage of asking questions in class or at home for fear of being found inadequate or punished for something as simple as a question.
We are afraid to make the same mistake or any mistake in general because parents always yell instead of trying to help us understand that it's okay to make a mistake as long as we learn from it. Yelling and making people scared doesn't always benefit a person, making sure how we can learn from our mistake to not get hurt or hurt someone is way better than yelling. I believe that as long as we learn what we did wrong, then we wont make the mistake ever again.
I agree and disagree with your comment. At a young age, we don’t know what is right and what is wrong, so when our parents yell at us, it is a sign of telling us we did something wrong and remind us not to repeat the same mistakes. But sometimes, when our parents yell at us, we would cry out of fear instead. But after crying it out, our parents try to calm us down remind us not to do it ever again. I think by yelling at us, our parents wants us to keep in mind and remember the mistakes we did. Learning from our mistakes and avoiding these mistakes helps us become a better person.
I agree with most of Jack’s opinions and his thoughts of why we are always afraid to make mistakes. In class, we heard that children at a young age are taught the wrong ways about mistakes and how we should not repeat the same mistakes. I like the example he used about math classes. Depending on the math teacher, usually when you take a math test and you get the wrong answer, as long as your steps of how you got the answer is explained, then you could get a point for showing work instead of getting everything wrong because you got a wrong solution instead of the right.
I think a people are afraid of making mistakes because they don’t want to face the consequences or punishment resulting from the mistake. We want learn from our mistakes and would hope that we won’t continue to making the same mistakes again. We are afraid of our faults because we don’t want to feel inferior or be embarrassed in front of others. Although we know that it is impossible not to make mistakes, i think that we don’t fear making mistakes, but we fear making mistakes that could’ve been easily prevented.
Due to how this generation is, with living on social media, nobody wants to be made into a viral video. People don't want to see themselves being laughed at or made fun of. So instead of wanting to learn and better ourselves. We are made self-counsciously swear that someone is always watching. Which in turn makes us not want to make a mistake.
My classmates said that they think people are afraid to make mistakes even though we learn from them because most people were taught that mistakes are bad when they were young. However, I believe people are always find themselves having to maintain a good image in front their friends, family or significant others. We do everything we can to convince others we are more than human.
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As we grow up we learn about different things especially from the people we grow up with. But like my classmates state, we know when we did a mistake. We learn after we had made the mistake and we cant go back and fix it but we learn for the future. Like my fellow classmates state parents will yell at you when you make a mistake but why cant tell not yell and tell you, you did something wrong. As we get older we learn about our mistakes by our parents, teachers and ourselves. But we are afraid because were young and just want to forget about it.
Making mistakes can be embarrassing and nerve wreaking. Nobody likes to make mistakes but it happens. The key is to always learn from it and don't make the same mistake again. From a heart break to a bad investment. Mistakes are tied in with experience. Can't have experience without making some mistakes along the way. For me, it's worse to make the same mistake twice. Especially when I should learn from the first time. I take mistakes harder than most because it feels like failure. You are your hardest critic. In time I've learned to accept mistakes and move on.
Yes we can and should learn from our mistakes. However, I believe we're afraid of making mistakes because it can have permanent consequences. It can be seen as a sign of failure or weakness. This is even more true if you are responsible to others for your mistake, or it has an impact on others.
For example, a CEO can make a wrong decision, and because of his bad decision, can be looked down upon by his shareholders, employees, board, etc. It's tough to overcome bad press. If it's really bad, he can lose his job. Tony Hayward, former CEO of BP Oil, is a great example of someone who said the wrong thing during the oil spill, got a lot of bad press for himself and the company, and so he lost his job.
I'm sure he learned a lot from his mistake. But there was no getting his job back, it was a permanent consequence. I think anyone would be afraid of failure in this situation.
I agree and I like the example. Bigger mistakes tend to overshadow small ones and I don't think anyone likes looking back on them. Yes, we have to look back at the mistake to learn from it but depending on the severity of the mistake, the shame and embarrassment can be too much and so we won't learn from it.
They say that parents should say its okay to make a mistake and i agree with that. I agree because nobody is this world is perfect and we all make mistakes. Of course we should learn from our mistakes not ignore them. We should not be afraid of making them because we need to learn from our mistakes so that we can avoid making the same mistake in the future.
Committing errors leads people through difficult times, and that is what people are most afraid of because they don't know the outcome of their actions till it is already done and too late to take back. A person will try and avoid feeling guilty or pathetic; especially if the person made that mistake and afterwards they had those feelings. I agree with one of my classmates that said during class that children at a very young age are taught right and wrong and if they do something wrong they are shown disappointment from their parents. Parents do not teach their children that it is okay to make a mistake because you will learn from that mistake.
Making mistakes is a factor of growing up and we can never escape them. But as we grow up making those mistakes we begin to be judged and condemned from what we've done wrong. We get yelled at and get in trouble from not knowing how to do things in the first place, as if we were supposed to know just because our parents do. Like if we can inherit how to pour water in a cup. It's wrong to believe that just because you know how to do something then automatically the other person should know also. This is what makes us not want to do try doing things as we get older because we start to believe that every mistake we do will stick with us and make us who we are, but we are not our mistakes, we can only be judged by how we decide to deal with those mistakes. It does not help any kind of situation to yell or scream at someone who doesn't know how to do things or how they work, it is more effective to explain what they did wrong and let them understand how to do it the right way. That way we understand and learn from our mistakes.
I agree with my fellow classmates we are not perfect its ok to make mistakes in life we learn from those to make better decisions next time nobody is born perfect just like kids make mistakes grown people commit them. People shouldn't be afraid to make mistakes because that's part of life that's what makes us learn from the past and to be more careful next time before making the same mistake or think twice
Even though we learn from our mistakes, we're afraid to make mistakes because we're afraid of being judged and feeling embarrassed. As a child when you make a mistake your parent might yell at you, but sometimes they never teach you how to correct that mistake. You just know whatever you did was wrong and not to do it again. Making mistakes is natural, and no one should feel ashamed for it because mistakes are how you learn to better yourself.
We are afraid to make mistakes because of the feelings and emotions we feel from it. We feel shame and embarrassment. We come from a society that disgraces you when we make mistakes and then that same society points and laughs. I agree with Jack when he says "from a young age we are taught to make mistakes, then we learn from these mistakes." We also feel these emotions because our family was taught to yell at us from their family, generation to generation. We are better for it when we make mistakes, we learn not to do that certain thing again and we learn not to say that. Making mistakes helps us shape us into the people we are now, and we should continue to make mistakes so we learn and build from there.
I believe many of us humans are afraid to do mistakes because we were always taught throughout our childhood that mistakes are bad. And yes even though we do learn from our mistakes we still hate going through it. It may stick in our heads for the rest of your lives, that one mistake will always haunt you. I believe that it is okay for us to make mistakes because it is part of our human nature.
The reason we are afraid to make mistakes is because of the emotion it carries when we make these mistakes. A deep feeling of guilt or dread that is instilled in us by an authoritative figure whether it is a parent or teacher. The feeling of letting some one down is always a factor in why we don't like making mistakes. For me i hate making mistakes because its all iternal i know better and making a mistake feels like a betrayal to myself.
It is part of human nature to fear our own mistakes. For example when we commit mistakes, the people that are around us would tell us that it is wrong and for that, we learn from our mistakes or be shunned by it. If no one tells us if it is a mistake then we will never learn from it and because we do not learn from it, we will continue to make more of it. When we were kids, it is alright to make mistakes because we would have a lot of time to fix our mistakes. The problem with childhood is that instead of our parents telling us how to fix our mistakes, they would yell at us. Fast forwarding to adulthood, if we were to commit mistakes, then we would get shunned by other people for doing something wrong and we would not be able to have enough time to fix our mistakes. Sometimes, our mistakes can cost people their career or their life. The problem with society is that people tell us that we did something wrong but we are unable to figure out how to fix it which would leave us to commit more mistakes. The reason would be instead of telling someone how to deal with mistakes, we would yell at them for it. This is why some of our parents tell us to learn our mistakes at a younger age than to regret it later on in life. This is why we fear to commit mistakes.
That is an interesting way to put it. We definitely do need to know whenever we do make a mistake in order to learn from it. Yes I believe that if someone does end up making a mistake, it is definitely our responibility to let them know that they did something wrong. But I also do agree with you that communication is key and yelling at someone will not have them learn because they are only focusing on the yelling and not totally understanding what is coming from our mouths
We as humans have always feared mistakes because society has shaped mistakes to be a great fear. In a way, society is responsible for our fears. An example would be that in most Asian cultures, people are taught by their parents that if they end up making a mistake, then they will be punished. That is why many people in Asian cultures are shaped to become a somewhat "perfect" person with no mistakes whatsoever. Another reason on why we can be so hung over on mistakes is because we never know how much it can truly affect our lives. For example, someone couldve committed a mistake by accidentally giving 1 million dollars to a different person that was not the person that it was intentionally supposed to be given to. It could be that humans do not want to take any risks by making a mistake because we naturally do not know how bad of a mistake it could turn out to be.
it is obvious that we are humans with different believes, customs, religions, nationality, and cultures. Eventually human are vey unique in there one ways but i feel that these are very huge and drastic forces that impact the way we think. If we learned from our mistakes we eventually realize how to improve what we did or thought we did wrong. I believe we are afraid to commit mistakes because we are afraid of consequences and the misery those mistakes might unite. However, throughout life we need to learn our mistakes through experience and that's what makes us a stronger character. Lastly, we must remember and consider the forces that i illustrated earlier. If humans were perfect, the world would be completely perfect but it's not. We must acknowledge that every individual chooses to perceive the world the way they want!