Adolpho M, De La Cerda III
Professor Adamson, J. Diann
October 6, 2018
If lying is wrong, why are white lies ok?
Little white lies are an every day thing for most people, the reason why they lie is to put a situation at ease, hype something to sell or make it more believable. They are hurtful and can snow ball into an issue that will only get worse with in time.
The story of Lance Armstrong, The greatest cyclist in the world, who said to an Oprah interview and his self documentary, he said” I didn’t live a lot of lies, but just one big one”. He then goes on explaining that there are fine details on why he lied, and how the need to give little white lies in order to conceal the bigger lie. The lies that compiled over the years after his first win of the Tour de France were just the beginning, the small white lies had to ensure that his Dr Jekel and Mr. Hyde were seamless in character.
White lies are not ok, there is nothing in this world that can benefit from side lies, white lies, tiny fibs or any kind misleading information. The factors will come back to the source ten fold in a negative way. To be misleading is to have no honor, respect or personal dignity, how can anybody trust and confine in someone whom can look at someone eye to eye and without hast, blink or stutter, someone is able to say a white lie with ease.
I tell white lies at times, I’ve sold my blue chips once or twice, i am not proud of it, but when you are looking at a soldiers eyes after a life threatening injury, “it is hard to tell the young man the extent the injury may cause the lose of his life if we cannot get him to a field hospital. I have said,”everything is going to be all right, you will be running physical training at no time at all’ but that was a lie’.
White lies, tiny fibs or misleading information is wrong, there is nothing good about them. Telling the classic white lie of Santa Clause his helpers and flying reindeer are the reason why children get gifts is a big one. The disappointment of knowing that there is no santa is heart breaking, and should not be told.
The world will continue to turn tomorrow regardless of whatever lies are said today...
The Armstrong Lie, Director, Alex Gibney, 2013
Antonio R. Lara (AR)
6 October 2018
If lying is wrong, why are white lies ok?
To begin with white lies are told for the main reason of not harming anyone's feelings, so they say that white lies are ok and many people tell them without realizing from time to time. I believe small lies such as the white and colorful lies can become bigger, so it is not a good idea to say any type of lies; if we want to have a solid relationship with someone. For example, one of our in class presenter-Dian Xu mentioned "I have lied to my mother who is in China." Because when Dian's mother asks Dian Xu if she is doing fine in California, Dian replies with a white lie as she stated: "Because I don't want my mother to send me her money, or worry about me." Therefore, Dian assured white lies are small things that we can get away with it, but in my point of view those lies are not ok.
White lies can destroy friendships, trust, and most important is a great factor to become a better liar. As Ariana's presentation showed why is not ok to lie "If you caught someone on a lie how are you suppose to trust that one on the second time?" she asked. I do agree with her because harmless lies do not affect people at the moment, but might come out to light and it can be more harmful than what is pictured.
Without any sort of lies all of us will be happier. Like Dian said, "she doesn't want her mother to worry" Why not just say the truth as Mommy I am not ok right now, but is not a thing for you to worry of. Eventually it will be fine. By saying this can also calm her mother not to worry and know that her daughter is learning about life. It is always better to say the truth no matter how big or small it is; it will come out to light sooner or later. Small lies can become bigger lies and be so much harmful to us. Those little lies can destroy more than what we can imagine.
I'm a believer that lying is wrong, but white lies are ok in order to keep a friend or family inspired, happy, and saving them from pain. Lets acknowledged lying about a serious matter such as within a company to customers, the government to the people, or wife to husband (husband to wife) can lead to serious consequences. Lying is probably one of the most common wrong acts that we carry out. Its Par of human nature.
Most people would say that lying is always wrong, except when there's a good reason for it. If you feel you must (white) lie to save some one from pain, keep them happy, or inspire, it's understandable. Know the difference and consider that person's feeling before you lie. Good luck!
(If lying is wrong, why are white lies ok). I personally think that all types of lies are wrong because of the damages that they cause. Trust issues lost of money, lost of friends, getting your self fired from work, getting suspended from school, getting arrested. I see how white lies in some cases would be necessary, like in Dian situation where she felt like she had to say a white lie to her mother to keep her mom's mind at ease.
We all at one point or another have done this to keep ourselves out of trouble but doing that constantly can make you a compulsive liar, at this point you start believing your own lies.
Fear is every common to humans. It is overwhelming when its comes to lying to others. There is no excuse to tell a lie. But the fear of how the one being lied to will react is the reason why we engage in these actions. White lies are done to spare someone's feelings or avoid a curtain situation. An example from one of the presenter, on Tuesday, explained that she had to tell her mother a white lie to avoid any outcome.
Every single day, we carry out these bad habits. There is a difference between lying and little white lies but we do need to acknowledge the consequences that could arise when we don't recognize are our actions.
If lying is wrong , why are white lies ok ?
I really liked how arianna started . If you lie once how will I know you won’t lie again ? A lie is a lie and even if you are trying to protect your friends or family it still has consequences. If you like it comes out in a different way . I have lied to my mom and make up a story and something else comes out a month or almost a year after and then you try remembering what you really said . I have seen families and friendships get destroyed because of it .. it does save yourself a lot of trouble
I believe if you lie you pay for the consequences! When I was a kid my parents taught me lying was wrong so I wouldn't lie but then I started to learn white lies and I was oh okay that is okay because is saving me or my sisters. As of now as an adult I have gone through so much because of lies that I hate even white lies because at the end someone pays for the consequences. Like the example Chu presented with stating she has to lie to her mom whos in china saying she's okay financially when in reality she's not. At the end she's getting hurt because her mom wants to help. With this example I hope to show my kids to not lie even though its white lies.
If lying is wrong why are white lies o.k.???
White lies are o.k. if you tell them to spare someones feelings. For example if your girlfriend asks you if she looks fat, you can tell a white lie and say that she doesn't. If on the other hand, your girlfriend is so fat that it affects her health then a white lie is not the way to go. Its really difficult for me to just go around telling lies because It makes me feel like a coward, but I believe that as long as you know the difference between a white lie and a malicious deception or betrayal you will be o.k. The movie Liar Liar with Jim Carrie is a perfect example of this.
Alexander I disagree with your thoughts in my point of view is better to say the true. As you mentioned the example of a girlfriend who is fat why cannot we simply say you dont look great in that outfit maybe if she would try other clothes might make her hide some belly. I would rather tell her the true than for someone else to just make fun of her on public. I would rather tell her you know what you are gaining extra pounds how about if both of us join the gym and dedicate some time for our health; this would not give her motivation to be eating a lot pf food that the body doesn’t require. That would be a better way to not hurt anyone’s feelings. Although telling white lies can avoid hurting people’s feelings, being obese can hurt them more than what people can thing of. Just a thought of mine
Growing up i was taught that lying was a horrendous thing to do. Now that i am older lying is still a bad thing to do, but its something to not look upon as always a terrible act. Lying occurs for different reasons upon issues you face in your life, families lives, and friends lives. For example you may lie to protect yourself or to get yourself out of trouble. Other times you may lie to your loved ones to spare them anxiety.
For example i once lied to my mother regarding my older brothers injury to spare her any fear or anxiety. Lying is a bad thing to do but not always