They say we may or may not say the whole story or trith by leaving stuff out to either cut it short, not get into trouble, or add stuff to the truth to impress people. They also say that stories are ment to be told and even if we tell the truth without bending the truth it will always be a persons perspective that could be different. Lastly, they say what ever happened has happened and if you lie it takes more layers to the story to keep the lie going.
I Say, Tell the Truth!!! As the old saying goes "The Truth Shall Set You Free". Even if you feel it's going to bring you trouble by telling the truth I believe it will pass and it will be a heavier burden carrying the lie.
I think so too, even if we lie it wont change anything, we will always have that guilt for not telling the truth. Sometimes the truth hurts but if people would just say the truth maybe we wouldn't have to lie. I think a good example would be when your in a relationship and your lying to the person that your happy, and you keep telling a story how happy you are when your not. Tell the truth !!! i agree....
I agree with you on lying won't change anything and guilt will always be in the back of our head. I also think it's best to tell the truth even if it might hurt someone. I can relay to the relationship situation when I had to tell my ex bf that I wasn't happy with him anymore. It did hurt him but in the end I perferred him knowing the truth than him making assumptions that I left him for someone else.
They said stories are meant to be a story of their lifes, they said that you may have the choice to change the story to your benefit although it may not be the truth. At the end you will only know if it is truth. Damina said she will always tell the truth, because if you don't no one will trust you. Sherry said people usually believe we are not our past and we may tell the story in different ways. Although I can only talk from my experiences. I say, I have always told my stories truthfully to all, I have no shame on me and I am proud to have a story in my past to tell. If the latter is true, there is no worth to it. I think that if people want to tell a false story, there will be no meaning at the end.
I agree with my classmates they said that people change their story and one classmate said that when you tell a story and change the ending to what they wish it was or the ending they wanted but lying about it doesn't make the story relevant, have meaning or a life lesson. one classmate said that lying about a story makes it hard to keep with all the lies you told or the way you told the story and with trying to remember one lie you have to remember a lot more. I think that true its so much easier to tell to truth because if its the truth you never have to keep with the lies your telling.
I may want to come off as a hero in some of the stories that i tell people, but if i wasn't really the hero of the story than i will never truly feel like the hero i try to make myself out to be. The lie to others isn't what counts, it is the lie that i tell myself. I have learned in my short life, that not too many people stick around and whoever i hypothetically might tell those fake stories too, might not be in my life tomorrow. Whether i chose to lie or not, the damage was done to myself. I tacked on a lie to carry on my shoulders. When i tell someone one of my stories that is completely true, it is a weight off the shoulders like i was able to honestly open up about whatever the topic was. The more a lie is built the heavier it feels. Personally, my life story is insane enough without having to bend the truth. Those that feel like they have to lie about their stories, are perhaps too worried that others might fancy their life as dull.
In class they mentioned that stories are events that happen and we often switch up our stories because we are not content with who we are, thereby we say stories of who we would want to be. Most times the way we tell the story depends on who our audience is or who we are trying to impress. Other times it is because we are trying to avoid getting into trouble or simply to suit our conscience. In addition, they proposed that we tell stories of ourselves from our perspective, which may not always be right, but we tell it that way because it fits the situation at the time. They further insist that our stories connect the past, recent and future, and whatever has happened is a part of our lives. However, while we are not our past, we cannot deny that it existed.
I agree that no matter what story we tell at any point, we are the only ones that will know what really happened and regardless of whether we bend the truth or not, we say it in the way we hope it happened. Moreover, the stories we tell others are sometimes true or false. We add or exaggerate certain parts for emphasis or to add some type of effect such as humor to make it more enjoyable or interesting to our audience. When we tweak our stories a little-while it may be wrong, we may have good intentions for doing so, especially if we believe it may be in the favor of the listener. For example, a parent speaking to their child may exaggerate how smart or hardworking they used to be while at school in a bid to encourage him or her to be the same.
In general, I have mixed feelings about bending the truth when we tell stories, but sometimes it may be for the greater good. However, it could also backfire because when we are caught in a lie, it damages the trust we have with the people close to us and once that trust is broken, it is difficult to earn it back. It is difficult to say which is better- telling a story as it is or adding false information, but when at crossroads it is better to opt for the truth. It may not seem like the best decision at the time but in the long run it prevents unnecessary problems and provides the pleasure of a good conscience. Before we tell a story we should ask ourselves why we need to tell it, what we hope to achieve, and the consequences of telling it. If we must lie to tell it and not telling it makes no difference, then it may be better to not tell it at all. We must be mindful of the things we say because they inform the people around us of the kind of people we are and if we can or should be trusted.
I agree with my classmates’ opinions that we must tell the truth about our past. One of classmates mentioned that our past story connects the past and the future and we learn from our past. I say, we need to tell the truth about our past to everyone and more so to people whom we love. Even though when we tell the truth about our past story and sometimes it might hurt someone’s feeling who love us, but we must tell the truth. If we tell lie to our beloved and they come to know about that, we will lose all the trust. When we lie to people about our past story and holding back the truth for long time, we are carrying the burden. Telling the truth gives us freedom and lightness in our heart.
I think we all believe in telling the truth, yes it does hurt when your lying to someone. It does loose all the trust when they never told you the truth since the beginning. Then when you find out they been lying this whole time its like a story that's never going end and your going to keep telling it how they lied. So tell the truth!!!!
Our classmates mostly agree that the stories that we tell reflect on past events and experiences. When we compare our thoughts with others, past experiences come to mind unraveling events that come out as stories when explained to others. When I have told a story about a time of my life I speak the truth of the event and the outcomes, but I have bend some of the detail either by accident or to create a better story, typically for entertainment. Most cases story telling is common for entertainment and our classmates agree that bending the truth to create a better story dosn't hurt in sake for good times and laughs to build memories to friendly and family gatherings. In other cases it is important to state the truth in a story, sometimes our word can have an impact or change a situation. For example telling your end of a story to an police officer as a witness to a crime could have impact on others lives not just yours. In cases like this every detail of the story should be accurate for the sake of doing the right thing. Any victims of the crime and even the suspects involved could be affected by false story. A situation as this, the truth is worthy.
They said people always bend the truth to create another story. Sometimes it is because they want to capture people’s attention. I said people always lie concerning their past because they are afraid to show who really they are. Most of the time people come up in their story with a brave, strong, and fearless character because every one wants to have these features. So, most of the people bend the truth to impressive society because all of this is about what the society thinks about us. At the end truth will come up, and people cannot keep the lie.
As the students stated in there journals people tell stories to tell about events that happen in there life. Sometimes they want to impress others by talking about what they did. Sometimes they will cut it short and don't tell the whole story, that way you wont get in trouble. Don't lie about anything you say, don't change your personality just so you can tell a story. We have every right to tell a story anything we want, but just don't deny anything. We all have different perspectives and different ways to say it. I agree with all this because it all depends on the person, we all have different ways like i said, but why should we lie? We all have a different connection when we tell them, its in our past and we cant forget about them so we tell these stories. But i will only tell the trued when i tell a story because those are the best. We also learn from others what they wet through and if were in common.
I agree with my classmates some of the story we may tell our kids have a big impact on our kids life most of the time we can be telling them fairytales because if we do this could cause a conflict on our kids life in the future we should learn how to said the truth and have a good understanding on our lifeSometimes our base on true experience and in my opinion i tell them how they are sometimes we change them a lil bit but most of the time i don't liked telling lies it just not on my way of being but there are other human beings that say stories and put more lies than anything but if you said thing that are not relevant you will always live in a fantasy life you need to be more realistic in life.
It has been instill in me from a very young age that saying the truth is best yet, the truth as we know it has been distorted in some shape or form to either be an advantage or disadvantage. I say that the truth is important because this is what makes us unique. It does not help when you change the story if it means that you will be hunted by lies. Time and time again we have seen that when we lie this can bring more trouble than just being honest.
The presenters mentioned that when we tell a story sometimes it could be our perspective and we are not always right. We change the story to portray what and how we'd want to be. Someone else also mentioned that we should tell our loved ones the truth about our past.
I say that all three of my classmates are right and that we all have bend the truth someway or another. I myself have lied about stories I've told others. I gave my perspective of the story sometimes to save myself from getting in trouble or make myself look good. Although now that I'm older I find it pointless to be lying when I tell a story. When it comes to my loved ones I like to be completely honest with them. They don't deserve to be lied to. Not lying make me feel like I'm being true to myself.
I believe that many people try to be honest when it comes to there past stories but they begin to lie as well to bend the truth. A person is faced with questioning whether or not their audience will judge and criticize them, for who they were before or for who they are now. We tend to keep some stories to ourselves or keep parts of it hidden, so I believe that many of us bend the truth so that we can still feel comfortable with ourselves.
They say if you gather a group of people and make a circle and tell the person next to you a story, chances are, by the time the story you told comes back to you, it will probably not be the same story you told the person next to you because stories always get changed along the way to make the story more interesting to the listener. I do my best to stay true to myself and stay to others for my own self Conscience because I want to be a person of my word and have creditability when I share stories with others about myself and my past because without being a person with no creditability, people will probably not believe the words your speak. I speak only of my experiences and can only speak for myself about what I have learned along the way of any knowledge I have gained, because I would love to help others with experiences I went through, especially if we think a lot, and makes us both feel , we are not alone on thinking like this, and could possibly help each other. I am not one to judge but there to listen and hopefully I get the same response in return but sometimes people don't think the same and one has to be little more hash in telling their story to you because what they experiences. For example, one of my good friends, is more blunt then my other good friends and she would tell you the good and the bad and I admire that because I am more passive and giving the benefit of the doubt on things, but the world is kind and cruel at the same time, not everyone is nice and wanting to be your friend and other hand there are loving and caring people out there with hearts of gold. I have a good friend with that giving heart I speak of and when I speak to her, she understands my innocent heart as is hers. I don't want to look foolish on a story I stretched the truth from just to make it more interesting, this is me and my story and only I can say it because it was something that happened to me, different from everyone else, my story to tell. I stay being truthful to myself and others because it makes me feel good to do so, to new friends, old friends, and family because I may be wrong or possibly right with my stories but not everyone story will be like, but that's my experience and other can experience a different story and make a choice to bend the truth alittle to please others or themselves.
I believe that our mind works in a very mysterious way. The memories we remember may not be the same as another person remembers. For example, I would recall a certain event that happened at school and talk about it to my friends, but they would tell me the same story but with different details. I also believe that sometimes, we do bend the truth. We only remember and want to talk about the things that we want to and or that sounds good to us.
The presenters mentioned lots of interesting thoughts about this topic but what I found the most accurate was when we tell a story sometimes it could be our perspective and we are not always correct. We change the story to portray a certain aspect.
For instance, if someone is telling a childhood story in their 20's they may remember the basis of the story but some of the details may not be exactly as it happened in the past. The brains memory can fog up during certain situations causing the story to be inaccurate.
I believe ones mind may change the certain details of a a story that we may not be content with how it happened. A person knows exactly what happens, however if they don't want to share something that happened they will make a few adjustments to what happened and make the story a whole new story with possibly the same key points.
That and like someone here earlier had said, when you tell someone a story, the chances of them passing it on to the next person just as you said it are slim to none. They may leave out a part of the story that you really put an emphasis on because it may have simply slipped their mind and therefore having switched your whole story.