Sometimes it is hard for me to ask for help, although I know it can progress me. Because in my view, my problem is too easy and that will make me stupid. Maybe others will laugh at me. Therefore, I am shame, with the feeling that nobody will understand me. I feel lonely and helpless. I know the sad mood, so I encourage everyone to ask for help for yourself in your tough time. There are a lot of hands waiting for you.
Yes, asking for help can be very challenging at time for me. Due to the feeling fearful, embarrassed, and ashamed for not understanding. At times like Hanlin has mention people can be very dameaning. They look at you with a face of stupidity and it results in feeling stupid. There has be countless times where I had to deal with such obstacles. With time I knowing that at the end it will only benefit me. Have built enough courage to ask professors, peers, and exchange emails to communicate outside of class. Though it does sound a bit foolish to say I had to be courageous. Many do feel this way due to pride, families such as Princess had mentioned, and fear. Asking for help should not feared in the end it only helps the one seeking it.
Asking for help has always been difficult for me because the fear of looking like a fool always comes across my mind before asking anything. People have different experience in avoiding to ask such as social anxiety, embarrassment, and the way the person answers the question. As I grew, the way most people who have responded to my questions for help were mainly rude and made me look like a fool. With this in mind it almost sets a standard in myself to not ask for help and to just research or to look into it with someone I trust more than the person who can clearly answer my question.
When ever someone needed help and didn't ask i always tell them to not be afraid to ask for help. I for some reason cant do that to others, unless i feel super comfortable with them. Only a few people in my family i can ask fro help with out hesitating or feeling afraid to and i have no idea why. I see and know that it helps me progress but i feel afraid to cause anyone annoyance or anything else. I rather not be a burden and fail. Even if its someone who has asked me many times for help ill hesitate or need an extra push to ask for something even as simple as a pencil.
It's hard to ask for help do to the fact people have ever felt shy or stupid in doing so. Requesting assistance from colleagues or friends. Maybe for a work assignment or to help care for our children when we are sick, is something many people have trouble doing. (Some, on the other hand, are all too comfortable leaning on others. We will get to them later.) In a society largely based on helping yourself, just go to any bookstore or library and browse the voluminous self-help section. It may seem odd to promote the idea that we need to learn better ways to ask for and receive assistance. We need to learn asking for help is simply not that difficult and can be beneficial.
I hate asking for help. Mostly because every time I have asked for help, I get let down. I feel asking for helping shows weakness, it let’s people know you can’t do it yourself. I think it’s a self pride thing. Knowing I was able to accomplish something with no ones help. I’m not saying it’s right. I know that if I were to ask for help things would be done much faster and better. I think there’s a lot of trust you need to have when asking someone for help in anything. Even something so little like asking someone to help fix something. A part of you must trust that the other person will know how to fix that. If they don’t know, a part of us feel disappointed and sometimes don’t even bother to ask someone else. It’s a hard to ask for help. You have to bring down a wall in order to receive help.
So for myself it can be tough to ask for help. The reason is because first of all I'm shy and if I were to ask a question I would feel as if other people thought about me as a dumb person because I asked for help. As one of the candidate said they don't ask for help cause they don't want others to make them feel dumb or think about them as a dumb person. Even if I know asking for help will only better myself the fear of being called dumb is what overcomes everything.
Another candidate said she doesn't like asking for help at all with her family because they expect her to know everything when in reality no one knows everything. I totally can relate to this person because when I ask for help at home they look at me in a weird way and say something like why are you asking me you should already know. So when it comes to my family the fear beats me as well because I don't enjoy it when they tell me something like that so I rather not ask and figure it out myself even if it will take me more time to get where I should be.
Finally but not least another candidate decided to get a rid of her fears in that exact moment of class and did the presentation on this question without even being a candidate for that day. She said she's afraid to ask for help since she's a Chinese person and many people look at her in a weird way because she does not know english that well so she doesn't really understand it but wants to learn the correct way to speak it. So she would like for each one of us in that class not to look at her in that way and actually help her because all she wants to do is learn and know the proper english the correct way. Im extremely proud of this candidate because that takes a lot of courage to do something like this so maybe it just take for you to get out of your comfort zone and get rid of your fears. I sometimes think the worst when it comes to getting help but in reality i shouldn't be scared at all if its only going to better for myself. Like how it will change for this candidate now that the class knows she needs lots of help and is only there to become a better person in life.
Yes, I would say its hard for me to ask for help even though I know it will benefit me because, I feel like everyone will think I am dumb in a sense especially because I am usually older than most of my classmates and feel intimidated you can say compared to someone straight out of high school. I feel that when i do ask a question people look at me like really thats easy. but I am learning as i go that asking for help regardless of what anyone thinks because I've noticed that when i ask it makes me better understand and be able to get that good grade.
I know at time it can be difficult to ask for help, to ask anything in general, whether its help on school, help on an application etc. It gets even challengeable when you ask people that you dont know. I used to be very timid when I was a child, as I got older it changed. It changed when I started working as a cashier (customer service),now I work in the medical field and I ask for help anytime I feel like it can risk my job, patiet care etc. I also became better at asking questions because i have kids, who there teacher a bunch a questions, till I feel like I am well understood. Why I feel like that? Because if I dont ask the questions I will end up doing something wrong, getting stuck in the middle of whatever I had a question or confused. My number 1 thing is ASK QUESTIONS AND WRITE IT DOWN!
I feel like for the most part asking for help is difficult only because in order to actually ask for help you have swallow your own pride and realize you can't do what ever it is you are wanting to do alone. To most people asking for help is a sign of weakness or of vulnerability when in reality its a sign of strength in my opinion.
Personaly, my pride gets in the way of my asking for help. I get this sense of guilt, that if I ask, I'm not where I am supposed to be. May it be the pressures of today or my family, but I've learned that that's not the case. We live in a culture where it is embarrassing to ask for help. Sometimes shameful. When in fact, we are only here today because of the help we've received. It has taken me some time to realize that everyday is a choice to be a better version of myself, and I've had many setbacks. The worst one was me holding my self back from evolving because I was too scared to ask for help. I would be stuck for days, sometimes months. Stuck. And the only thing that has brought me brakthrough, was the help I received from those who love me, and those I never expected would. It's a hard lesson, but a necessary skill to become exactly who I want to be in the future and pay it forward.
The majority of the time I am fine asking for help. The way I go about it is once i have establish a connection with a person I feel comfortable to ask. As suppose to a stranger which can make asking more of a challenge. But even so I do dare to ask cause there are time my curiosity gets to me and that what push me to ask.
Its Sometimes hard to ask for help because you feel like your not smart enough or you would sometimes feel that your not good enough. Asking questions can be hard you don't know how to ask properly or you would sometimes feel let down by the other person.
its not hard to ask for help. but people expect you to do something back when they need it. its not hard to ask for help when the thing you want is right there and you just have to open your mouth and say thank you after.