Serigne had a very interesting answer to this question and I enjoyed and agreed with what he said, that honesty is very important in determining the worth of what you are saying. He said that he valued being honest with people and that bending the truth would make your story invalid . I agree with this because I try to be as honest as I can and when I find my honesty would hurt someone then I just om-mitt certain facts but lying takes more effort for me than being honest. What we say is what we are either proud to speak of or confident enough to speak of, so thus lying tells more about the person than the story. If we are not confident enough with our own past actions to repeat them as they were or not excited with our own discussion enough that we must lie, then what type of individual are we ?
The stories we tell others about our past determines who we currenlty are in the present. In my opinion if we cannot speak clearly and trithfully about who we once were, then we are not able to be confident with who we have becoem, enough to defend our old selves or actions. The truth and our words are all we have in this life that completely represent who we are as individuals, if we must constantly lie to excite others in our lifes experiences, then we need to change our experiences so the stories become more interesting. What we lie about determines a great deal how we view ourselves.. Personally i would be more upset spending my time engrossed in someones story, to only later find out it was all a line. I would judge that persons authenticity and words in the future, therefore I try my best not to lie for the very same reason I would never want someone to see my words as invalid.
I agree, if we keep telling others our own fabricated experiences and stories, we lose a part of ourselves and start to believe our own lies. If we do this are we really living an authentic life? And those who choose to fabricate parts of their story, are those comfortable knowing they're presenting an image and facade of themselves that's not true to who they are? What if someone who was with them hears the fabricated story? What happens then when a second party hears their lies?
I like to believe that the stories that are being told are true, although I do accept the fact that most of the stories are bent in even the slightest way. I think the audience of the story plays a role in how it is bent bent because there are certain things you wouldn't want to tell some people but are fine with telling others. Most people, including myself, won't tell a lie, they may just leave a part out and not mention it. Stories are mainly bent to interest the audience.
On the other hand, stories with flat out lies are one of my biggest pet peeves, especially when I know the actual truth. Those types of people just want to seem better or more exciting than they are and want to be viewed in a higher manner as someone who experienced a lot or someone who has a more exciting, eventful personal life.
Many people take their memory to be granted as accurate and true. Unfortunately, this is not the case. Often times, people will incorrectly recall information or their brains will fill in parts of the story that they do not remember clearly to form the "best" version of what happened. However, the brain will often make errors, which is why two people might remember the same event with differences in what happened. Many others, on the other hand, will often exaggerate or lie about their past and while telling stories. We usually realize this habit in certain people fairly quickly, but many would not be offended by the bending of the truth as the stories are not usually personal. The worth that this has, in the grand scheme of things, may not be much, but neither would the absolute truth, as deeper connections surpass just storytelling.
Although we all try to tell our stories as honest as possible I feel like we all tweak our stories at least a little. I am guilty of doing this even if it’s something very small like changing the tone of how you responded to that rude guest at work when telling your coworker what happened. I don’t think that the value of the story changes even if the story has somethings added or left out of it. It all comes down to how we felt at the moment of the story we are telling.
I think we've all been guilty of exact thing! Although exaggerating on an emotion or how we felt during that time, might just be used as a crutch to make our friends/those listening laugh. I don't think that's necessarily tweaking. Tweaking and being dishonest would be if you switched around what happened at the actual event of the scene.
Maggie essentially said she loves telling stories and loves to make the person hearing the story engaged; to feel like they were in her shoes. She believes that bending the truth isn't necessarily a problem, because you want to make sure they value the experience as much as you do.
Serine said there are two types of storytellers; 1. Those who lie, 2. Those who tell the truth. Personally, he likes to tell the truth. If you're not telling the truth, you're painting a false reality.
I think the stories from our past we tell in the realm that we remember it most. For example, we might say a story from our childhoods and remember it differently than say our parents did. I think it all has to do with how we felt during that time and how that experience effected us. Granted, it's always better to tell the experience just how it happened. We may fabricate parts to make the person we're telling it to more involved. Although there is a difference between exaggeration and bending the truth. Bending the truth is just lying, but exaggeration can be used to add humor to the story. If your story, isn't interesting enough that you have to lie to tell it, it's better unsaid. Although, if you're telling friends, those people already love you; there is no need to bend anything for their approval.
The stories we share with family, friends and others almost literally defines who we are and what we may have experienced. During Wednesday's response Maggie talked about how it is normal for one to not tell the truth, or even make up stories, for a listener to understand and feel the same level of experience the speaker may have felt. Serigne on the other hand described how not telling the truth makes a story lose its value, and in essence this would mean even truthful stories later told by this same person who had not described the truth will lose all sense of credibility. Serigne's response is how I also view untruthful stories or depictions, and when possibly confronted or questioned by a parent or authority figure (like Serigne said) I typically tell the truth and just leave out details, instead of flat out lying. In this way you would keep your reputation and "word", but may have forgot to fill in some missing details. I believe a tarnished reputation makes a person isolated in our society, with no one to understand or experience what he or she truly feels.
In my opinion, the stories we tell others must always be true. I usually try to keep the stories I tell as truthful as possible. Even so, Sometimes it depends on who we are telling those stories too. For example, if it's someone I have known for a long time and am comfortable with, I will tell the truth because no matter what they will view me the same way. Nonetheless, if the person I'm telling the story too is not close to me then I might just bend the story a little because they do not need to know everything about what happened. Moreover, bending the truth can make the story less interesting to hear, because most of the time it is obvious when someone is doing so. There are some other types of people who totally create their own stories and lie about the whole thing. Most of the time people do so so their stories can seem more interesting, and people get interested more. At times, people bend the truth because they do not want to be seen in a way that they do not like.
Maggie said that, we all tend to tell stories and add stuff to it. The point of telling a story is trying to share details and values of what you experience. Telling story as it is often don’t get through to people. So, telling story from your perspective does not necessary mean it’s not true. I like what Serigne said that, some people do bend the truth and try to paint a perfect picture. He make a point that it’s better to be honest about what happen rather than your listener find out later on from someone else that you lie. My opinion is that there’s a difference between storytelling and lying. When we tell a story from the past or what we experience, most of us are guilty of exaggerating and adding details into it. I think that it’s best just to be honest about what happen. Bending the truth too much and adding details that did not happen is consider lying. Even if the story are not interesting, it best to be forward about it. Bending the truth or lying about what happen can cause you to lose your credibility and values of your words.
Maggie said that she tend to add stuff to the story to make it more interesting and to give the listeners the same feeling. While Serigne said that he tells the true story but he doesn't tell all the truth. I agree with some of what they said. I believe that it is okay to add details to the story as long as the story is not too far off to the truth. You sometimes need to add details to make the story interesting. If an event happen to a person they think that the event is something worth telling but when they tell the story it sounds boring to the listener so they need to add details to make it more insteresting.
We bend the truth when we tell stories to make them more interesting and exciting to others. However, this does not mean these stories are worthless. If we succeeded in entertaining our friends and families with our stories, then they have done their job. The point of stories is to provide some entertainment, so whether they are 100% true or not does not matter.
I feel that in this day and age entertainment is still a huge business, which can control a lot of the media, and what we perceive through our devices. Thus, many new's outlets and entertainment networks on the internet, or T.V. tend to stretch the truth to make sure they gain viewers/followers. Sometimes we tend to pick up the same habits in extending our truths in stories in order to be entertaining. Doing this isn't necessarily wrong, but as Serigne said that honestly is an important trait to have for the validation of your own stories. I understand that stories can help make our stories seem more interesting. Although meaningfulness of one's experiences tend to be glossed over, in where the story may turn stale since the experiences aren't genuine. On the other hand, adding in a bit of exaggeration, which can bend the truth of one's story, can serve as a tool to amplify story telling. For instance, one may experience something small, but can flesh out their experience to elongate the time being told and include in depth story telling to try to create a thorough description of their experience.
In all honesty, it is our responsibility to tell our own side of the story truthfully and credibly. But also, it should make it interesting and funny so that it keeps it funny and witty. However, it is our own volition to make our stories funny and exciting but if it is too close to the truth, we must be aware of the people's feelings before exposing out in the open. It is our duty to keep the story authentic no matter what it is so that people are hooked on to the story.
Im agree with Serigne about how people like to exaggerate and bend the truth, that there's different types of ways of being honest. I think everyone has bent the truth somehow throughout there life, but bending the truth doesn't mean being invalid of the way you speak to you audience. Serigne also stated that the are two types of story tellers, those who lie and those who tell the truth. Stories are bent to interest the audience but it's our responsibility if we chose to lie or say the true.
When I tell stories I will always bend the truth a little because you at least got to make it worth someone while if there going to listen to a story. This reminds me of Serigne's journal in how he said that he leaves some truth out but never lies which I though was very clever and I enjoyed that perspective. Back to my first sentence, If was agreeing to hear someones story it better be a good one because I would not want to spend a precious 5 minutes listening to what might be a boring story.
Story telling is an important part of who people are and how we communicate with one another. Just as Serigne talked about, it always better to not bend the truth in story's. I agree with him on this because the more genuine the story is the more interesting it is. I can see that for some people it can be better to exaggerated a little bit to get their point across, but it still is better to keep it truthful, if you can.
The stories that we tell from our past seem to have a bit of fabrication in them to create a better story, however this does not degrade the integrity of the story. I feel that sstories from personal experience will always have a bit of fabrication in them because they are told by the person who has acertain attachment to the events that took place.